“Bored” and “Lazy”

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Sometimes people say unschooling wouldn’t work (or isn’t working) because their kids are “too lazy” or because they are “always bored.”

But not only are boredom and laziness NOT reasons nor proof that unschooling doesn’t work  – they offer great opportunities to learn new things and to have more bonding experiences.  These moments are a good time for parents to pay closer attention to their child and find out more about who their child is.


4 comments to “Bored” and “Lazy”

  • “Boredom is an emotion” helps a lot with misinformed judgments about “boredom,” but it’s sad how much people still super-judge all kinds of emotions too. I also liked “Boredom is a natural state,” and what Nikiah says about how difficult it is to remember the value of being still, holding no goal and not looking for a neat summary of everything.

    I loved this one!

  • Another great talk! Your daughter’s words were so inspiring! What a beautiful soul she has!

  • Lou

    Thank you for your podcast. I was listening and learning about boredom. I’ve learned a lot about this since having children and unschooling.

    It was “not allowed” in my childhood and not in my mom’s childhood. Pop quiz for my mom or I, at gun point would be predictable.
    Interrogator: “Do you ever get/have you ever been bored”
    Mom and I would both answer honestly: “No, never, I don’t get bored.”

    Since my journey as an unschooler I have looked into boredom and what it is and isn’t. I talked to my mom about this last week, about it being a feeling. An in-between, not sure what to do next, I don’t mean vacuum the floor as a thing to do, feeling. We were both able to admit, then maybe we could both say we had felt boredom at points in our lives. But, we quickly just grab something to do. I jump on Netflix and bliss out – because I love to watch things, for example.

    Anyway, that is just a long bit of where I am coming from to ask your thoughts. I was listening to the podcast and it had a general gist of “boredom is not bad/not a sin/normal/desire to figure out what to do next, etc” that I have learned is fine. Grand. I am ok with that. Then they said “but if your child is bored all day every day then it’s time for a major life shift.” Well, crud, that is where I am with my 9 year old. So I don’t know what to do now. Have you seen/written articles on “major boredom” that you could point me to? A search of homeschool/unschool and boredom just brings up the parts about it being a normal part of learning/life and my worry is that I am needing to do something bigger/more.

    He is into Minecraft and we started a Minecraft club where we have meetups every week, and we do a weekly park day (which, honestly, he hates to go (as fun while he is there) but his little brother likes to go). The rest of the time, I am here to help with any project he wants to do, but he is not an arts/crafts/builder type. He declines to go with me to walk his dog. He watches YouTube and Netflix and that is totally fine with me, in the past it has lead to discovered interests. Lately, he will come out of his room, iPad in hand and headphones attached and say he’s bored. I offer and all of my suggestions are worse than boredom?

    Thank you for your time and consideration.

  • -=-my worry is that I am needing to do something bigger/more.-=-

    If you don’t feel like you’re doing enough, do more.
    Accept the uncomfortable feeling as you would hunger or sleepiness, and act on it, a bit. See if that helps. If so, do more.

    Instead of offering suggestions, do things for him, and with him. There are lots of ideas on my site (and other places you could google up) but here’s a list Deb Lewis wrote a few years ago that I really like: Things to do in the Winter

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